
Because the principles of Accusations are not well known or talked about, and what the Bible teaches us not valued or explained, most people who are accused are vulnerable to losing friends when accused.
When Satan finds someone to accuse you, and like I said last week, a friend or family member is his favourite employee, it feels like someone has vomited all over you. The person who accuses feel better, but you feel dirty and defiled and in need of a wash. People around you who are ignorant think that because you are the one covered in vomit, you are the one who should be avoided. They get annoyed at you for stinking of puke, but don’t ever get upset at the person who vomited on you!
Accusations have the effect of making everything stink. The most pure and clean relationships are dirtied. A man in the church has a pure relationship with a lady in the church, but as soon as some snide accuser suggests that relationship is inappropriate, everyone turns every action dirty in their minds. Their friendship become awkward and unclean. The vomit of one accusation could splatter all over. Pure, godly relationships can be defiled, people are now analysing every move.
A pastor only needs to be accused once of misusing money, and everyone is wondering where his shoes, watch and car came from. His relationship with his church and his ability to lead them to still waters is hindered, by just one sentence from some satan influenced accuser with no wisdom or godliness!
In my experience, the most painful thing about being accused is the people who accept and believe the accusations, and accept the accused at face value. I once had a lady call me of being racist, and some people left the church just because of one accusation. That was harder than the accusation! I was stunned people heard the accused, looked at the fruit of her life and then decided to stop associating with me over her. That decision was not godly, it wasn’t even sane.
This ia one of the reasons Accusations hit so hard. Because people start treating you different. You are covered in vomit, but no one is criticising the vomited, they are avoiding you. And it is tough.
The urge to defend yourself, to get down to the same level as your accusers will be intense. But you must not. You will not get the smell of vomit away from you by puking back.
What you need to do is threefold…
- Never accept the vomit as God’s will. This is not God’s judgment on you. This is not God humbling you, this is not karma. You are not supposed to be accused. The accusers are working for Satan not God.
- Love those who hate you. Bless those who accuse you. Speak well of them. Be positive and kind. Operate in the other spirit. That is pure water that washes away the vomit smell, and will cause people to be comfortable in your presence even though you have been accused. Some will even wake up and realize that your accusers are not being godly. You will set more people free by obeying the Word than getting down in the mud and telling “your side of the story”.
- Some friendships may be lost when you are accused. That’s not easy, but realize they did not leave due to the accusation. They left because they wanted to. They left because they wanted to, and are using the accusation as an excuse. Trying to defend yourself will not restore the friendship, as it is not the accusation that is the problem. It’s just a smokescreen.
Honourable people understand what I am saying. A dear pastor friend of mine was accused by someone in his church, they lied about him and actively tried to split his church. Anyone spiritual knows instantly that this behaviour is not God! He started hiring a building across the road from my friend’s church to try and rip his church apart.
Because I was so close to this pastor, this accuser emailed me and tried to separate our friendship. I didn’t even reply. I have learned thaf the problem is the vomiter, not the person who got in the way. I don’t engage with the voice of Satan, I don’t go down that line. In fact, I called my pastor friend, went for breakfast and spent time learning from him how to handle accusations. And that advice has come in very useful indeed. Watch someone godly accused up close and you will learn so much. And one day, when you are accused you will be glad you made that choice.


