FOR THOSE IN THE FIVEFOLD MINISTRY:
Bad apostles command you to plant churches. Good apostles father you and raise you up to plant churches. They are there for you, they help you, they support you.
Bad prophets chastise you for missing God’s voice. Good ones inspire you to tune in to His still small voice and speak His language of unconditional love and grace.
Bad evangelists chide you for not winning the lost. They scold and moan at you because you are not doing enough personal evangelism. Good evangelists will inspire you to win people, take you to where the people are, and listen to you when you are struggling.
Bad teachers will condemn you for not knowing the Bible, they will make you feel inferior to their fount of knowledge. Good teachers will open the Bible up to you and inspire you to open it yourself when they are not around.
Bad pastors control, attack and bite the sheep. They will roar at the sheep like rabid dogs to chase them. They feed them their personal agenda to build an empire. Good pastors lay down their life for the sheep, they lead them to green pastures and still waters. They equip the saints to do the works of ministry.
Now everyone in the fivefold – if we are honest know we have had bad days. But let’s re-focus today and become gracious and grace-filled when it comes to releasing the gift we have inside us for the body of Christ.
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Good word, Ben! Operating with graciousness/grace is a key to being effective in life!